I recently (as well as a few times, previously), encountered blatant judgement of my recovery techniques, from an individual who has no reference to make these judgements. She doesn’t have a brain injury, nor does she know anyone closely who does (I think this is a safe assumption, due to her obvious lack of knowledge about an appropriate recovery timeline or healing techniques.)
An experience that optimized this naivette, was judgement of me, solicited to me, passive aggressively. (She made a massively condescending comment, while walking away from me, but projected it, so that I could hear her insult clearly, even though she was a parking lot away from me. Because of the distance between us, she offered me no chance to respond. ((I didn’t feel it necessary to project a response.)
Being robbed of the chance to defend myself, with a rational explanation, which would explain why I did what I did, feels very unfair.
She considers herself very smart. She’s takes great pride in this. I am quite sure, (due to her intentional, consistent & prolific reminder of her residency, even though she refers to herself, as a doctor ((a bit premature -> don’t we think?))) however, that making a judgement, without first seeking evidence from someone knowledgeable about my condition, is not considered wise by anyone.
All evidence needed, to make a sound judgement, (in reference to my brain injury) needs to be sought directly from me (the patient in question), as there’s truly no blanket information that applies to all survivors.
This injury is very individualized.
If she had chosen to criticized me, directly, however, I would’ve felt respected: that I had been invited to share my rebutal.
The passive-aggressive communication style, which she employed, informs me of her perceived self-importance.
If you can’t insult someone directly to their face & offer them a chance to respond, you must not have much confidence in the validity of your argument.
I did recently have a chance, to put my exasperation into words, and offer them to her, but unfortunately, I was unable to be clear, due to feeling over-whelmed with anger & disaprovol of her chosen communication style.
Her only saving grace, could have been, if she had admitted, that she had NO idea of the severity of my injury (very severe).
All of my licensed MDs, as well as my therapist, (so all of the professionals, that are aware of the details of my case), cororoberate to say, that my improvement is phenomenal, as well as the methods that I’m employing are (and have been) useful in facilitating my recovery.
But instead of gathering data, or admitting her nievete, she choses to judge me, blindly.